Sep 26, 2012

How to get peace of mind when someone has wronged us to no end?

Question to Swamiji: I have a question about relationships with other souls while on the spiritual path. My business partner swindled the business, and drove me into the toughest two years of my life. Today I am settled again, but I am unable to forgive him. How to get peace of mind when someone has wronged us to no end? 

Answer by Swamiji:   This material world is like the prison house of God; souls who have turned their backs towards him have been put here.  So, we cannot expect the people of this world to behave like Saints. There will always be persons who will come to cheat us, and on some occasions they may even succeed.  That is life; we all get cheated once in a while.   But the important thing is to learn to take it in our stride.  That is where the quality of forgiveness comes in.
If we continue to harbor resentment towards those who have wronged us, we will be unable to progress spiritually. Resentment acts like poison on the mind, filling it with bitterness. And we keep reliving the sour experience within, pinned down to the past. Someone aptly said: "Resentment is like taking poison and waiting for the other person to die."     
On the spiritual path we must be careful not to nurture ill feelings towards anyone, realizing that they will harm us more than anyone else.  Jagadguru Shree Kripaluji Maharaj says:
"Even in your dreams, do not make the mistake of harboring ill-will towards anyone."   
Forgiveness is a sublime personality trait that immediately releases all bitterness from the mind. It is a favor we do, not to the other person, but to ourselves. The lives of saintly people are full of inspiring stories of how they forgave their wrongdoers, and even succeeded in winning them over by their love.  
A person made an attempt on the life of Mahatma Gandhi, while he was living in South Africa. Mahatma Gandhi refused to hate the man. He said, "I shall love him, and win his love." One year later, that same man came and apologized to before Mahatma Gandhi, and wept for forgiveness. This is the characteristic of great personalities; they refuse to allow their minds to dwell on hatred towards anyone.